Things You Should Never Do Before Relaxing Your Hair

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Relaxing your hair can be a tedious process, especially when you can't make it to the salon to get it professionally done. If you want a straighter hairstyle, a relaxer gives you that option without worrying that your hair will revert to its natural texture if you get caught out in the rain or want to go for a swim. Getting your relaxer done in a salon, in the hands of a professional you trust, is the best way to go about this process, but it can also be done at home. The key to keeping your hair healthy throughout the process is making sure you follow the directions on your relaxer's box, and don't be afraid to ask for help from a friend!

Hair care experts TK and TK weigh-in on the proper procedures to follow when relaxing your hair.

Check out our tips for making your at-home relaxing session go as smoothly as possible.

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01 of 08

Skip the Shampoo Before

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Before opening your relaxer kit and mixing your chemicals, ask yourself when the last time you shampooed your hair was. Cleansing or even wetting your hair and scalp before you relax may lead to burning once you apply the chemicals, because your scalp hasn't had enough time to "rest" since your last shampoo. No matter what your regular cleansing routine is, do not shampoo your hair for at least one week before applying relaxer.

Do not scratch or pick at your scalp before you apply your relaxer. Broken or scratched skin may make your scalp more susceptible to burning.

02 of 08

Don't Forget to Detangle

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In order for a relaxer to work properly, it needs to reach all of your new hair growth — or all of your hair if this is a virgin application. The chemicals won't be able to touch all areas if there's tangling or matting. Now, this isn't the time to perform an intense detangling session with a lot of pulling and tugging — that will irritate your scalp and may lead to burning. Instead, work through your new growth with your fingers first, maybe the night before your touch-up. This will give your scalp some time to rest. After a gentle finger detangle, use a wide-tooth comb to work only through your hair. Stay away from your scalp as much as possible. Comb through all the way to the ends, but don't overwork a section. Detangle and move on.

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03 of 08

Work in Small Sections

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As with detangling, the relaxer can't cover all areas when you work in big chunks. You should work quickly, but thoroughly. Use the tail end of a fine-tooth comb to gently separate sections, but don't create defined parts. Only use the comb to lift sections so you can apply the relaxer to new hair growth. If your hair is detangled, you shouldn't have a problem separating small sections into 1-inch areas.

04 of 08

Be Precise

If you've relaxed your hair before, it can be hard to only put relaxer on your new growth. Although the line of demarcation between the new growth and previously relaxed hair may be obvious, it's still difficult to be as precise as you can when placing a relaxer only onto your new growth. If you relax without help, it's especially difficult to avoid overprocessing on the back part of your head. Not only should you enlist help for touch-ups, but you should try to visit a professional for this whenever possible.

05 of 08

Smooth, Don't Comb

When you start to relax your hair, make sure your are smoothing the chemicals on rather than combing them through your hair. Some people insist on raking a comb through their hair as they relax it, but this may lead to severe breakage. Only use your fingers to smooth the chemicals onto your tresses.

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Be Sure to Set a Timer

We can't emphasize this enough: Do not forget to time how long the relaxer is on your hair. Each relaxer kit gives time recommendations, and you should adhere to them. Leaving your hair to process for a period of time shorter than the recommended one is preferable to leaving the relaxer on longer than suggested. Leaving relaxer on too long may lead to severe breakage or burning, so this isn't the time to guesstimate.

07 of 08

Never Skip Neutralizer

There's a reason you buy relaxers in a box: everything you need should be included. More important than the conditioner or mixing stick is the neutralizing shampoo. You cannot use your regular shampoo to stop the relaxing process. If you do, expect to see major breakage and hair fall in the coming days and weeks. A neutralizer stops the relaxer from continuing to work on your hair and essentially eating through it. One of the issues some people face is that a small bottle of neutralizing shampoo isn't enough for their long and/or thick hair. If you routinely relax at home, do yourself a favor and purchase a separate bottle of this product at your local beauty supply.

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Condition, Condition, Condition

Once the relaxer and neutralizing shampoo are completely rinsed away, don't skip the critical step of conditioning. Processing your tresses places stress on them, and they need some serious TLC after relaxing. You'll probably have a small bottle or packet of conditioner in your relaxer kit, but feel free to apply more of whatever you have on hand, including a deep conditioner. It never hurts to give your hair a little extra love after processing it.

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