As much we all wish we could leave the hair salon every time feeling J.Lo-level fabulous, this isn’t always the case. Sometimes, you’ll look in the mirror afterwards and feel anything from shock to horror to deep, deep sadness (R.I.P hair). Sound familiar? When this happens, a series of things may occur: 1.) screaming and crying 2.) throwing things 3.) wailing that “no one will ever like you again” and 4.) a strong urge to reach for the shears. Do not—we repeat, do not—do any of these things. Instead, take a deep breath and keep reading.
When we asked Carver for some things to avoid after a bad haircut, he said four things: Don’t panic, don’t try to fix the problem yourself, don’t be too hard on your stylist, and don’t abandon a trusted stylist. “Understand that, chances are, your stylist misunderstood your goal,” Carver says. “It doesn’t mean they are terrible at their job.” He recommends giving your stylist an opportunity to make it right. How so?
When it comes to fixing a bad haircut, Carver says the sooner you bring up your feelings, the better. “Don’t wait! Expressing your concern at the time of the appointment is ideal, so that the stylist can do their best to make things better right then,” he advises. Now, there are times when going home and playing around with your cut can be helpful before deciding whether or not you want it cut or adjusted more. In those cases, he still recommends voicing your concerns to your stylist while in the chair, and allowing them the option of fixing the cut immediately.
“If their attempt to fix the problem still leaves you unsure, then agree to go home and play with the cut with the intention of potentially coming back based on the results of your play time,” he says.
“If you get home and are still unhappy, wake up the next morning and go through your usual styling routine to pinpoint exactly what challenges you’re having with the cut so that you can provide usable feedback to your stylist,” Carver says. After all, you don’t want to go back to your stylist without being able to express why you’re unhappy. “The worst thing is to go back to your stylist and say, ‘I just don’t like it’ without some kind of concrete feedback as to what it is specifically that you don’t like,” he says.
Not sure what he means by specific feedback? Think along the lines of something like, “I like to sweep my bangs to the side and they fall a little too choppy with this cut.”
Sometimes, it might take you a while to admit that you aren’t happy with your cut. No worries—Carver says two weeks is the maximum amount of acceptable time to have passed to call your stylist and express dissatisfaction.